Kwa Nini Uchumba ni "Mtamu" Zaidi Kuliko Ndoa Kwa Walio Wengi?

<div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <img alt="http://manyota.webs.com/oo.JPG" src="http://manyota.webs.com/oo.JPG" /><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"> <span style="font-size: small;">1. Wapendwa wanaJF, kwa wale waliowahi kupitia hatua ya uchumba hadi kufikia ndoa au hata wale ambao hawajawahi kupitia hatua hizo, lakini wameona mifano kadhaa kwenye jamii, watakubaliana na mimi kwamba ndoa nyingi "zinaumwa" na zinahitaji kutafutiwa "chanjo" au "tiba!"</span></div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"> <span style="font-size: small;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;">2. Naamini kwamba kabla ya kufikia ndoa wachumba huwa wanavumiliana na kupendana mno, kila mmoja anamwona mwenzake ni bora kuliko yeye! In fact kama hawajaonana siku inakuwa haijaenda sawa!</span> </div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: small;">3. Lakini baada ya kuingia kwenye ndoa mambo hubadilika taratibu na kuanza kuleta kero, malumbano yasiyoisha, huzuni zisizoisha, ngumi, mateke, n.k. Kuna baadhi ya wachungaji huwa wanatumia usemi huu ufuatao wakati wanafungisha ndoa: "Wengi wa walio ndani (ya ndoa) wanaka watoke na walio nje (ya ndoa) wanataka kuingia!" Kwa maana hiyo ndoa ni taasisi ya ajabu sana!</span> </div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><br />4. Swali langu ni kwamba kwa nini uvumilivu, upendo, huruma, kujaliana, (ambao mimi nimeuita "utamu") nk ambako kunaonekana kwenye uchumba usiendelee hata wakati wa ndoa?</span> </div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><br />5. Lengo la mada hii ni kujaribu kuwasaidia wenzetu ambao wanataka kuingia kwenye ndoa pamoja na wale walioko kwenye ndoa ili waweze ku-"think twice" na kutengeneza mahusiano yao ili maisha yao yawe na ushuhuda mbele ya jamii na watoto (kama wamefanikiwa kuwapata).</span> </div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><br /></span><span style="font-size: small;">6. Kwa kuanza kutoa maoni, kwa</span></div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"> <span style="font-size: small;"> upande wangu naona kwamba (a) wengi wanaingia kwenye mahusiano kwa sababu ya "tamaa za mwili" kiasi kwamba wanaangalia uzuri wa nje zaidi kuliko wa ndani! Uzuri wa nje ukishaanza kuchuja upendo nao unaanza kuchuja vile vile! (b) Kingine ni kwamba baadhi ya watu (hapa nafikiri ni wengi zaidi) huwa wanaingia kwenye mahusiano kwa sababu ya kuangalia vipato zaidi kuliko upendo wa dhati, uchumi ukianza kuyumba, ndoa nako inaanza kuyumba na hatimaye kuvunjika!</span> </div> <div style="color: black; font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><br />USHAURI: Upendo wa kweli usiathiriwe na mazingira: uzuri, kipato na kadhalika! Hii ni sumu mbaya katika ndoa! Naomba maoni yenu zaidi.</span> </div> <script asyncsrc='//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js'></script>

Kwa Nini Uchumba ni "Mtamu" Zaidi Kuliko Ndoa Kwa Walio Wengi?

1. Wapendwa wanaJF, kwa wale waliowahi kupitia hatua ya uchumba hadi kufikia ndoa au hata wale ambao hawajawahi kupitia hatua hizo, lakini wameona mifano kadhaa kwenye jamii, watakubaliana na mimi kwamba ndoa nyingi "zinaumwa" na zinahitaji kut…

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NINI MAANA YA KUVISHWA PETE YA UCHUMBA?

<div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;"><img alt="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhlFy9c7xqtoCA3fhLlRAkLuTOwZX_SyKJpWL7iwstptrUsoZt_EvCTJ6bpH6G20tU2_2GHP06WYkGNuepIyd9Axt2Kz0nW0sEiX7M9uPeGMmTkOwEXJb_oRDn0FquQCpGAJDyQ5rtyHOo/s1600/pete+ya+ndoa.jpg" height="318" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhlFy9c7xqtoCA3fhLlRAkLuTOwZX_SyKJpWL7iwstptrUsoZt_EvCTJ6bpH6G20tU2_2GHP06WYkGNuepIyd9Axt2Kz0nW0sEiX7M9uPeGMmTkOwEXJb_oRDn0FquQCpGAJDyQ5rtyHOo/s400/pete+ya+ndoa.jpg" width="400" /> </span></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;">Habari yako mpenzi wa Kisiwa cha mapenzi ? natumai uko poa kabisa kwa mapenzi yake mola nakama haupo poa basi mungu atakupa afya njema . Leo hii tuna angalia ama napenda tuongelee hili swala la kuvishwa pete ya uchumba.</span></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;"> </span></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;">Kwanza pete ni nini?</span></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;">Pete ni ishara ya kuonyesha kuwa tayali upo katika mahusiano na mtu ambaye unaona au umeona ndiye chaguo sahihi lako katika maisha yako .</span></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;">Uchumba ni nini ? </span></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;">Uchumba ni kitu cha muhimu katika mapenzi na ni hatua nzuri kwa wapendanao walioridhiana kwa kila jambo,hasa pale mnapoamua kuvalishana pete ya uchumba.</span></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;">Unapovishwa pete ya uchumba inatakiwa usikae si zaidi ya mwezi mmoja au miwili bila kufunga ndoa.</span></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <br /></div> <div style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-size: small;"> Lakini cha kushangaza wapenzi wa siku hizi wanavaa pete kama fashion,urembo n.k uchumba ni jambo zito hayo ni maoni yangu  Nawasilisha ebu nawe lete maoni yako juu ya hili.</span></div> <script asyncsrc='//pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js'></script>

NINI MAANA YA KUVISHWA PETE YA UCHUMBA?

  Habari yako mpenzi wa Kisiwa cha mapenzi ? natumai uko poa kabisa kwa mapenzi yake mola nakama haupo poa basi mungu atakupa afya njema . Leo hii tuna angalia ama napenda tuongelee hili swala la kuvishwa pete ya uchumba. Kwanza pete ni nini? Pete…

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